Many young girls worry that using menstrual cups and tampons will make them no longer a virgin … let me first start off by saying there is no “one size fits all” answer. Most people might think you are no longer a virgin if you have participated in penile-vaginal intercourse. Others may say that you’re a virgin since your hymen isn’t stretched open all the way. It is up to you how you define virginity.
What is a hymen?
The hymen is a thin membrane that stretches across the opening of the vagina. Girls are born with this membrane completely covering the opening of the vagina, but as girls grow up and begin puberty the membrane stretches out. By the time girls start menstruating the hymen tissue is thin enough to allow a period to happen. As girls continue to grow up the membrane stretches even more, it is likely the opening of the membrane will tear or even open all the way, therefore it is hard to say that if there is an opening in the hymen your no longer a virgin.
The deflowering myth
The deflowering myth consists of people thinking that using menstrual products can affect your virginity status, specifically menstrual cups and tampons which are to be inserted into the vagina. This is because these products may touch or tear the hymen, but it is important to know that it is not the presence of the hymen to detect a women’s virginity. The hymen can be stretched or torn by medical vaginal exams, and even certain types of vigorous exercises.
What is a tampon?
A tampon is a feminine hygiene product designed to absorb the menstrual flow by inserting into the vagina during a period. Once the tampon is inserted into the vagina correctly it will expands as it soaks up the menstrual blood. Check out our blog post on tampons here!
What is a menstrual cup?
A menstrual cup is feminine hygiene device that is inserted into the vagina. This flexible silicone is shaped like a bell and collects menstrual blood before it leaves the body.
What does this mean?
So overall the deflowering myth, is exactly what it is. A myth. Everybody is able to have their own beliefs in what counts as sex or virginity. But, tampons and menstrual products will not affect the status of your virginity.